Today’s message is important and very simple, it’s all about you. You matter. You’re loved. You’re seen. You’re a beautiful force in this world. In a world with over 8 billion people, there is only one of YOU. No one else can be you, God made you for a reason. You have a gift that only you can execute in a certain way, no one can carry your gift or calling like you.

As I’m maturing and doing much reflecting, I’m learning we have to weigh our cup. Do we have a lot in there or do we need a refill? Are we halfway or are we overflowing? And I know you are wondering, “Niya, why are we talking about cups?” What if I told you the cup is you? Are you checking in on yourself and making sure you’re good? Or are you just worrying about everything and everybody around you?

Have you ever felt like the things you are carrying or going through is just so heavy? Yeah… me too. The weight of everything we have going on in our lives can be too much, and we don’t know where to turn. But just WAIT, wait on God; wait on a word from him, wait and trust. God never meant for us carry our burdens or to stress when we are going through, He wants better for us.

It’s been a while since my last blog post, but I’m happy to be back. I pray you guys have been good, I love you guys so much. As I took my break, God sent a message to me to deliver to you all. You can still be used, even if you’ve been hurt and abused. God can still use you even if you have a past, if you have trauma, and if you have ugly scars; YOU CAN STILL BE USED.

ForevaBlack family, in life there will be times where people will not clap for you. There will be people who are our oppositions, but you should never let it shake you. A piece of information that has stuck with me since I’ve learned it is, “the enemy doesn’t bother what he isn’t threatened by.” When trying to walk in your purpose, sometimes it may seem harder, and you may feel alone. Know that you are never alone and that opposition shows up when you’re in the right position.  

Hey ForevaBlack family, do you know that God can turn your little into legacy? God can do so much with our little and make it become massive. We’re always looking at what we have and saying we only have a little bit of resources, how will we be able to make it into something? Sometimes we can’t expand our small, but God can.  

God granted us authority and power when we came out of the womb. We are His children, and He gave us the resources and the keys to open things in our life. There are things that will take the life and light out of us, and sometimes it’s hard for us to crawl out of that dark space. One day we have the power, and the next we feel like the problem or whatever it may be, has the power over us. I’m here to tell you today that that is not true, we will always have the victory because of who we belong to.  

Rejection is something we aren’t too fond of, ForevaBlack family. None of us like being told “no”—and trust me, I completely understand. Rejection stings, but when God says “no,” it’s not to harm us—it’s to protect us and redirect us. In the moment, we might be upset because we didn’t get what we wanted, but down the line God reveals why that door had to close. Often, the very thing God rejected was something that would have hurt us, and because He loves us, He shields us from it. 

Every space doesn’t need to be filled. While me and my mom were cleaning our downstairs closet today, I thought to myself I wanted to squeeze in one more thing but instantly the Holy Spirit said to me "Niya, every space doesn't need to be filled." It stuck with me, so I proceed to ask what does that mean? In the physical, we were just cleaning up and obviously leaving room for space, but there I was trying to declutter and still wanting to fill the space AGAIN. Spiritually, God is doing the same thing in us, but we’re always trying to put our hands on it and drag something back in.  And the Holy Spirit let me know that when he gives us space in our life; whether that's space for love, space for Relationship with Him, space for healing, clarity, and even preparation.  

ForevaBlack family, I hope life has been treating you all well... and even if you feel like it hasn’t, remember a bad day does not equal a bad life. A bad day is just for a moment, it’s never permanent. Life will always have its ups and downs, but we’re not supposed to let it beat us down. When life throws complications and mishaps our way, we tend to get discouraged and say our life is bad but in reality, that’s not true.  

Being the strong friend doesn’t mean you have to carry everything alone, or to carry anything at all. Sometimes when we hold onto the mindset of being “strong” all the time, we neglect our mental, emotional, and spiritual needs. We’re carrying our problems, and people also lean onto us for theirs... which it is nothing wrong with being a shoulder to cry on, but sometimes it’s like “dang, do people not think I have things weighing me down either?”  

Happy Thursday my beautiful ForevaBlack family. Healing is something that is available to us all, and honestly something that we all need. Our healing is completely on us, it is our job to make sure we do the work in order to heal and to move forward. There are some things that people get confused when it comes down to healing; the biggest thing we as a collective get confused about is that our healing doesn’t mean we will have closure. Let me explain... most of the time, we’re healing from trauma that others put on us, the pain they caused us, and how they drained us of so much love. But do you know the majority of those people will NEVER say sorry, but guess what? The responsibility is still on YOU to heal.